50 Shades of STFU
50 Shades of STFU is kinky play party, social event, and performance venue for FemDommes and the individuals who serve and worship them. We aim to create an inclusive space for LGBTQ, pansexual, queer, or straight submissives and their fem tops.
If you’re a cis male dom this is really not the event for you. If you’re switchy and abide by the dress code you are welcome to join us.
No effort, no entry!
FemDomme attendees can dress to impress as they wish (fetish wear encouraged).
Male/submissive attendees are required to dress to express their interest in femdom, even in some small way: fetish wear, collars, cuffs, high heels, fetish shoes, hoods, crossdressed, glamour, make-up, uniforms*, leather, PVC, lingerie, leashes, puppy or animal costumes, sweet jammies, cute underpants, bow ties, bunny ears, etc. Men will not be allowed in the club in plain street clothes or jeans. For first-timers who do not own fetishwear, wear something costumey or silly, or just be shirtless or in nice underwear. When in doubt and the outfit isn’t dress code appropriate, we will give you a nametag to identify as: submissive, sub-curious, service sub, etc.
Cis male attendees will not move about the space completely nude. If part of a scene or active play you made be nude in the club.
*Racist/fascist symbols and uniforms are not allowed in the club.
*Do not interrupt scenes!
*Do not get too close to play scenes or ask to be involved.
*Always negotiate boundaries before playing!
*Play is encouraged but NEVER expected of anyone.
*Safe, sane, and 100% consensual play only.
*Dungeon Monitors will be present and monitoring all scenes.
*OBEY THE DM’S!
*Aggressive cruising will not be tolerated. Be aware of the space and energy you are taking when you hover or get near a play scene.
*CONSENT CONSENT CONSENT. Do not touch another person or their property without their explicit permission. No means no. Do not get pushy or aggressive. This behavior will be grounds for being asked to leave the club.
*Individuals who are not in fetishwear or part of active play scenes shall not be nude while moving about the space.
*No blood play, urine play, hot wax, vomit, scat, fire, knife play, guns, or breathplay. The DMs will end scenes including these actions.
*Attendees will respect the Dungeon Monitors, hostess Mistress Viola, security, and Sanctuary staff and follow the rules and instructions.
*No drugs or outside alcohol allowed.
*No audio or video recording devices are allowed.
*Cell phones may only be used outside or in the outer hallway. NO PHOTOS ALLOWED. If we see you taking photos you will be asked to leave.
*Limit your play scenes to 45 mins as to allow time for others to use the play areas, suspension points and dungeon furniture as there are limited areas.
*Clean furniture and play equipment before and after scenes. There are cleaning supplies provided by the club.
*Do not move play furniture without discussing with DM or Mistress Viola first.
*If you feel someone is misbehaving, being aggressive, or making you or someone else feel uncomfortable, please let the DMs, hostess Mistress Viola or club staff know ASAP and we will do what we can to inform the individual or have them removed.
*Use of the word “safeword” is a call for assistance. DMs and/or other experienced players will intervene and come to your aid when they hear it.
Sanctuary is 21+, LGBTQ+, ADA, anti-racism, and celebrates diversity.